How Compass Virtues Replace Personality Patterns

There is a curious paradox rooted in our personality patterns (personality disorders). Every one of these patterns possesses a particular virtue unique to that pattern. Yet it is only accessible by embracing your whole Self Compass. If you have been stuck on the Assertion compass point in the Rule-breaker pattern, for example, it is only by embracing the caring of the Love compass point that you reap the virtue of creativity inherent in the Antisocial Rule-breaker pattern. 

Virtue of Creativity

 

Why? Because true creativity requires caring for others. Without it, creativity deteriorates into manipulative ploys to deceive. But once Rule-breakers reach for the Love compass point, energy used for deception shifts to creative enhancement of other’s lives as well as sincere self-expression.

As rigid patterns fall away, in their stead comes the harvest of your labor: Compass virtues. Virtues that can now sprout forth as fruits of the Holy Spirit (Gal 5:22). This is because you are surrendering your patterns to the Lord.

The Dependent Pleaser and Histrionic Storyteller patterns yield to the Love compass point virtues of charity and good cheer. The Paranoid Arguer and Antisocial Rule-breaker patterns give way to the Assertion compass point virtues of courage and creativity. The Avoidant Worrier and Schizoid Loner patterns transform into the Weakness compass point virtues of empathy and objectivity. And the Narcissistic Boaster and Compulsive Controller patterns find wholeness in the Strength compass point virtues of autonomy and discipline.

Compass Virtues

 

The rhythmic and self-correcting polarities of Love, Assertion, Weakness and Strength—combined with a deep reliance on Christ—support your transformation from the inside out. Notice how a person’s trust in God replaces the fear produced by personality patterns when you “trust in the Lord with all your heart” (Prov 3:5).

For The Dependent Pleaser Pattern

When nurturing others' well-being is combined with the willingness to stand up for your needs and confront unfairness, the capacity for healthy love, untinged with resentment, grows. 

By exercising the Strength compass point, you develop confidence in your personal power and loving concern for others, realizing that you really count in the world. Instead of automatically disowning compliments, recovering Pleasers are finally comfortable receiving them. You humbly accept your imperfections, knowing that God and others love you as you are.  

With the full use of the Self Compass comes the authentic virtue of charity, uniquely expressed by each redeemed Pleaser:

• Sensitive and sympathetic.
• Doesn’t need the limelight.
• A good listener and follower.
• Tender and talented in care for children.
• Quick to forgive. 
• Compromises easily.
• Is kind and helpful.             

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